We are stepping into the story of summer. It is messy. It is imperfect. It is stretching and glorious. Parenting fills our hands. Summer is no exception.
It is a ‘we’ story.
Already, Riva Soucie offered their ‘We’ story of Nest-Building in two powerful posts:
This week, our family created a another story. Our family of 10. An adult brother and sister, a mom and dad, along with spouses and children. We met at the lake.
Besides corralling little ones and BBQing chicken, it offered our extended family the space for some rich togetherness and learning experiences.
Inspired by my paraplegic father-in-law who faithfully bikes 40-60km each day, we all silently agreed to be more active. We decided the week was for more than just sun-bathing by the water.
So, my brother-in-law took his two vibrant, athletic children up Cactus Mountain. It is a 450ft climb from lake to peak and the switchbacks get the heart pumping. The next day, my husband, The Builder, joined them. Day three, they convinced me to come.
I don’t feel strong. I tried to rationalize. I haven’t been active enough. I didn’t want to hold people back. I resolved to dig deep.
The Climb. Up the mountain. Out of breath. Panting.
It’s only 450ft, yet it seems farther. Actually, it seemed out of reach at points…
But, from the top, it was an exhilarating, breathless, spectacular-view experience.
While the mountain top experience was phenomenal; the learning was on ‘The Climb’:
- We walked together. Spurring us on was my father-in-law’s quiet example of overcoming all manner of objections for fitness and health. The kindness of my in-laws made it gentler. The Builder’s quiet and consistent encouragement got me to the top. We are partners. Our ‘village’ is creating a story together. It is a walking meditation.
- We’re inspired by those ahead. I need to follow in others’ footsteps. So, I remind myself that my father-in-laws arms are quite likely stronger than my legs. If the children can do it, then I can too. I chant, “Slow and steady wins the race.” I follow those ahead.
- Gifts are hiding along the way. There are always little gifts hiding in the brush: fresh sage, desert bunnies, and ruby, red berries. Even my sweet nephew crouched down in the brush to jump-out-at-me for a belly laugh. If one has the eyes to see, there is encouragement at every turn.
- Little ones follow in our steps. On day four, much to our surprise our little one joined the crew! We couldn’t believe her determination to make it to the top!
Cultivating connection in our homes has the same elements of The Climb. Even though it can be messy or discouraging or even downright infuriating, it is a ‘we’ story.
- We walk together.
- We’re inspired by those ahead.
- Gifts are hiding along the way.
- Little ones follow in our steps.
When The Builder and I met Riva and Adam, we felt deeply grateful! We were designing our home alongside them. Sometimes we took the lead; sometimes they did. It was Nest-Building for the sake of the children. While sometimes it is uphill, connecting with other parents made it a ‘we’ story too!
It is a joy to connect with other families! Subscribe at Learn Forward to get information about the next Nest-Building retreat and private coaching offering for parents.
Also know…
If your home is falling apart, you’re getting stronger. If you feel defeated, surely, you will rise again. If you are ashamed, draw strength from forgiveness. If you are tired, there is rest for you. These are my Learn Forward lessons.
Hold your dream for your home. It is the sacred gift you give your children. They will thrive.
How can you reach out to those closest to you today to create a ‘we’ story? Describe where you are on ‘The Climb’ of designing a home. What is the next right step? How can our Learn Forward community help?
I’d love to hear from you this summer. Please comment on your favourite social media platform this week: Facebook, Twitter, or Instagram.
For the sake of the children,
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